Fatherhood Blues


The first time that strange feeling hit me was when I realized I was going to be married. Wow, so I’m gonna become a mister with a missus to bear my name; I’m about to become somebody’s hubby.

I felt like a Jambite who had just gained admission into the University of matrimony. Like every newbie, I got to learn what is and what’s not. And I did fine, I blended into the mix like milk blends into a hot cuppa coffee.

Next, I move from being a Hubby to being a Daddy and I’m excited and at the same time kinda scared – that strange feeling again. What kind of Dad am I gonna end up becoming? I started reading books, listening to messages and grasping anything that talks about fatherhood just to be all ready.
But it’s my babygirl who ends up calming my fears. 
Each time I carry her, all of a sudden I’m emotional. She gives me her wide eyed baby stare and seemed to say to me “Don’t worry Daddy, it’s gonna be alright”.
And I smile and hold her closer.

Today, she’s the reason I make sure I close on time at work, she’s the reason I look forward to going home, she’s the reason I look forward to going to see her grandparents (my parents), she’s also a reason I want to drive the car even when I normally wouldn’t feel like ‘cause I love to watch her in her car seat. She’s the reason for a lot of things.



I still can’t understand why some Dads end up abusing or destroying the life of their children. 
It’s one thing to be a Dad, its another thing to be a Father (Note that they are twoThat child sees you as a role model, as a small god to look up to. If she’s a girl, you’ll be the first date she’ll ever have and its what she sees in you that will inform the kind of men she’ll look out for (provided you bring her up well). If he’s a boy, you’ll be the first best friend and mentor in what it takes to be a real man (provided you are one).

Children are a gift. Ever since I watched my wife grow in size in pregnancy till those powerful moments in the delivery room and the first glimpse of little Timi, I have come to appreciate children more than ever. Each time I see a little child, my heart skips a beat and I’m drawn to relate with them more than I used to before. And I know its because I’m now a different person; I’m a father.  





15 Screamer(s):

Congrats daddy, she is one beautiful girl!

ScoopsNija said...

Is this a new template? It seems different. Am glad you're enjoying fatherhood. Like you said I could never understand why some fathers turn their backs on their kids.

doll said...

aw...buriful...9c one

jhazmyn said...

You'd make a great dad, not perfect (can anyone ever be?) but great, cos you're willing to learn what it takes to be one...wish u d best on this new journey and hope you all enjoy everybit of it, every phase, ever stage ...Daddy

LG said...

foine baby!

Daddy' plz can i borrow timi's stockings??????? :-)

SimpleeMe said...

awww..tear! I am the same way with my nephew and he is not even mine! lol...Children are truly a blessing from the Almighty :-)

That's beautiful...I am so glad that you're a loving father who is committed to being the best you can be in your job.

I am sure Timi will grow up loving her daddy as much as you love her.

Awww, lovely post! Congrats on being a daddy to little Timi! I'm sure you'll be a great dad, no doubt. God bless you and your family.

(and yes I'm married - since 2005!)

LoloBloggs said...

I'm jealous, I want me one of those racer car seats! lol!

She's very beautiful and I wish you all the best on your journey together.

Tigeress said...

aaaaaawwwwwwwww what a beautiful girl. And you're obviously a good parent and will remain so by the grace of God.

akaBagucci said...

WOW.. what a cute kid.. Now you make me want to chuck my 5 year plan out of the window!

Lolia said...

Awwwwww...We thank God for men like you, don't worry am sure your daughter will end up being a real daddy's girl and turn out to be absolutely wonderful :)

Olufunke said...

This touched me, especially the parts ...she 's the reason I.... , she's the reason I...., she's the reason I ....

You sure would be a great Dad by God's grace.
Praying God would give you both all you need to be successful Parents!

Congrats!

Anoda Phase said...

waoh...this is just soooo cute...congratulations on becoming a baby daddy...she's a beauty...n yeah, it'll be fine...

oluwatoyin said...

i like this!